parents to look at their own behaviour.

　　"The key to getting teenagers to respect you is to respect them first，" says Penny Palmano，who has written a best­selling book on teenagers."You can't continue to treat them the same way that you have been treating them for the last 12 years：they have opinions that count.Imagine if you'd spent two hours getting ready to go out for the evening and someone said，'You're not going out looking like that，are you？' You'd be very upset and you'd never say that to an adult."

　　Palmano，who has two daughters aged 19 and 16，has even allowed the children to hold several teenage parties at her home."I've found that if you have brought them up to do the right thing，and then believe in them，usually they'll behave well，" she says."I make them sandwiches and leave them alone.But I make it clear that they have to clean up.I've never had a problem；in fact，the kitchen was sometimes cleaner than I'd left it."

　　She agrees that teenagers can be annoying：enjoying a world that is free of responsibility，yet in great need of independence.She doesn't think，however，that they are trying to annoy you.Until recently，scientists discovered that the part of the brain that controls common sense and feelings is not fully developed until the early twenties.

　　"This would explain why many teenagers can't make good decisions，control their feelings，or focus on several different things at the same time，" says Palmano.

　　She suggests showing a bit of consideration when it comes to other things，too."Don't criticise(批评) teenagers for having an untidy room，then suddenly criticise them for other things.On these occasions(场合)，parents are likely to mention all the other things that they may or may not have done wrong."

　　【语篇解读】　本文是议论文。文章主要讨论了父母如何与青少年孩子友好相处。

　　1．With children growing up to be teenagers，parents ．

　　A．are more likely to treat them like adults

B．are more willing to accept their opinions