I think the biggest problem with youth today is simple lack of respect, and not knowing what 'disappointment'means.

　　Gone are the days in the really young - where sports have a winning team and losing team...

　　I want my students to know what it's like to lose, even if they try their hardest. I want my children to know and understand the word 'disappointment'and 'frustration' -- instead of protect their "weak" egos.

　　Once these little people turn into adults, they won't function well in the real world without knowing how to cope with the downs as well as the ups. 2. Learning to design a survey

Work in groups of four. Design a survey to find out what kind of friends your classmates are. You can use the survey in the Warming Up as an example.

Step 1: In your group, come up with four situations among friends. Design four questions accordingly with three possible answers.

Step 2: Put the four questions together and form a questionnaire.

Step 3: Check the questionnaire through and try it out on your own group.

Step 4: Share your questionnaire with another group and try each other's questionnaires.

A sample survey

This survey has four questions, and each question is followed by a set of possible answers. Please read the questions, and then consider which response fits you best.

1. Why am I close friends with this person now?

A. Because being friends with him/her helps me feel important.

B. Because my friend would be upset if I ended the relationship.

C. Because he/she is someone I really enjoy sharing emotions and special events with.

2. Why do I spend time with my friend?

A. Because my friend would get mad at me if I didn't.

B. Because it is fun spending time with him/her.

C. Because I think it is what friends are supposed to do.

3. Why do I listen to my friend's problems, or to what my friend has to say?

A. Because my friend praises me and makes me feel good when I do.

B. Because it's interesting and satisfying to be able to share like that.

C. Because I really value getting to know my friend better.

4. Why do I keep promises to my friend?

A. Because I believe it is an important personal quality to live up to my promises to a friend.

B. Because it would threaten our friendship if I were not trustworthy.

C. Because I would feel bad about myself if I didn't.

Scoring Sheet:

Q1 A 1 point

Q2 A 1 point

Q3 A 1 point

Q4 A 3 points B 2 points B 2 points B 2 points B 2 points C 3 points C 3 points C 3 points C 1 point ★ 4~7 points: You are not a good friend. You either neglect your friend's needs or just do what he/she wants you to do. You should think more about what a good friend needs to do.

★ 8~12 points: You are a good friend but you sometimes let your friendship become too important, or you fail to show enough concern for your friend's needs and feelings. Try to strike a balance between your friend's needs and your own responsibilities.

★ 13+ points: You are an excellent friend who recognizes that to be a good friend you need balance your needs and your friend's. Well done.

Note: Students work in groups and try their own questionnaires in the school to collect more information about students' reflection of the values of friendship.